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by Judith Drake

Well , Tomatoes In The Trenches has done it again!  Put together a delicious blog/radio show, that is.  Wednesday morn, 8/25,  they interviewed Chef Robin Burnside, author of “The Homesteaders Kitchen/Recipes From The Farm To The Kitchen.”  Could anything be more delicious???

Ms.Burnside, whose 40 year culinary career includes being co-owner/chef of Carmel Cafe in Carmel, CA, Cafe Amphora at Nepenthe, the Esalen Institute, and working as a private chef and caterer, had oodles to say about cooking with fresh fruit and vegetables, how to avoid or wash foods that have been sprayed with poisons (particularly strawberries), and the best way to cook artichokes, among other things.

Healthy lifestyle changes?  Try local foods from the garden and farmers’ markets!  In short these tomatoes and this wonderful chef/writer had a great conversation about getting back to basics with yummy, as well as wholesome, food.  Did you miss it?  No harm no foul – simply go to

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/profile.aspx?userurl=tomatoesinthetrenches

and give a listen…you’ll be glad you did.  AND…you’ll be hungry!…Like me…excuse me, I have to go try a cream mango smoothie now.

Judith Fresh-Food-Rules Drake

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Judith Well-Over-60-&-Lovin’-It Drake has been in the ‘Show Biz’ for 45 years, crossing paths with the likes of Mary Martin, Betty Grable, Cher & Calista Flockhart along the way, been a wife to Mr.Whipple and screamed for T-Mobile; .Her priority now is as a producer with In The Trenches Productions, the first entertainment network for women over 40 on the web.
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Published in: Family, Life | on September 1st, 2010 | No Comments »

by : eileen Williams

As proud baby boomers and ardent members of the forever-young generation, becoming a grandma may have been a shock to your system.However , for those of us lucky enough to join that very special club, the joys far outweigh any obvious signs that age is leaving its telltale mark with the moniker, “grand.” I’m thrilled to join that privileged group in June and I couldn’t be happier!

Nevertheless, I’ve been a proud grandpuppy parent for quite some time and my four-legged grandson is as cute as they come.He’s big for his age and quite handsome.However he does have his furry flaws–even his doting parents won’t deny he has certain challenges in the drool department; .But this canine heartbreaker has the face and demeanor of a winner: big brown eyes and a toothy grin that won’t quit are just a few of his attributes; . : moose’s winning personality and an appetite that signals his zest for life are readily apparent in his debut video that recently hit YouTube with a storm!

Yes, I’m unabashedly flaunting my granny brag video and I hope you’ll take the 90 seconds to view one the of the cutest faces on the planet.My last post had to do with the joys and challenges of being a grandma in the twenty-first century. : this one is all about the joys and challenges of our furry grandbabies.So let me hear from you proud grandmas of the four-legged variety.

Who says bragging rights have to be relegated Homo sapiens? A big sloppy doggy kiss and the wag of the tail are pretty doggone great and enough to make any granny grateful!

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Mary Eileen Williams is a blogger, radio show host, and frequent TV guest for the “Feisty Side of Fifty.” She’s a proud member of the baby boomer generation and believes we are totally transforming the spirit and style of aging. : mary Eileen loves writing stories that bring out the humorous and sassy side of growing older and is a contributing author to Chicken Soup for the Soul in Menopause.

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Published in: Family, Life | on August 30th, 2010 | No Comments »

by Judith Drake

Michelle Obama talks about her latest mission…her ‘ : let’s Move’ campaign…with Ladies Home Journal Editor-In-Chief Sally Lee in the Sept.10 edition. : getting kids to exercise and eat healthier and fighting childhood obesity has become one of her closest causes. And this is a cause we should all be getting behind, as we see statistics poping up daily to tell us the bad news in that area.

The interview covers all sorts of things…how , in these days of two-worker parents and ultra-busy school schedules families can find time for exercise and sitting down together for home dinners, among others. : mrs.Obama says she “. – ..wanted to create a message that gave parents better information”. And after reading this , I think she’s doing just that.

She talks about how to make eating a focus of children’s lives, and even how to get a few vegetables down their throats! (I won’t tell you the one vegetable Mrs.Obama herself avoids. – ..you’ll have to read the interview for that news.) : they talk of creating boundaries for TV and computer time, setting up family priorities, and the overall message of Let’s Move…balance.

So if you want to see how a mother, as busy at the President’s wife is, deals with these ever-growing health problems among our youth, grab this Sept; .edition of Ladies Home Journal – . : enjoy…and take a few hints yourself; . I did.

Judith Let’s-Move-It! Drake

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Judith Well-Over-60-&-Lovin’-It Drake has been in the ‘Show Biz’ for 45 years, crossing paths with the likes of Mary Martin, Betty Grable, Cher & Calista Flockhart along the way, been a wife to Mr; .Whipple and screamed for T-Mobile – .Her priority now is as a producer with In The Trenches Productions, the first entertainment network for women over 40 on the web.
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Published in: Family, Fitness, Life | on August 19th, 2010 | No Comments »

by Cheryl Benton

Okay, so no mother is perfect; . And adult children need to take responsibility. But anyone who has watched Lindsay Lohan’s out of control behavior can’t help but think, isn’t there someone, like her Mother for example, who can help this girl from her self-destructive behavior? Seems to have worked in the case of Britney Spears whose father stepped in, and we haven’t heard any negative news in that camp for quite awhile.

So we watched with curiosity to Lindsay’s mom Dina’s interview recently with Matt Lauer on the Today Show – . So what did Dina have to say? Basically she put all the blame on Lindsay’s current predicament (just out of jail) and in court ordered rehab on the judge who took played “hard ball” with Lindsay; . And she kept repeating to just about every question Matt asked her, that the judge has recused herself from the case, and Linsay will get a “fairer” judge and should probably be out of rehab in no time – . And then the other blame went to life in the Hollywood fishbowl. : and then, as if to prove that she really is a good mother, she mentioned several times that her son just graduated suma cum laude from college.

Oh my! No wonder Lindsay can’t take responsibility for her actions. She has a mother who enables her to put the “blame on everyone” else. : the entire interview made us wonder, why is Dina even doing this interview? To prove to the world that she’s really not a bad mother? That Lindsay is really just fine, and doesn’t need rehab? That she’s raised 3 other great kids? It’s sad to watch.We like Lindsay – . We think she’s actually very talented , and we just hope she doesn’t waste that talent, and finds her way to a productive and happy life. But clearly she’s going to have to do it on her own.

What do you think?

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Published in: Family, Life | on August 18th, 2010 | No Comments »

by Joyce Mason

Generation Segregation…Good Idea or Bad Medicine?

Let me say upfront; there is no right answer to this question.At best, you might find the right answer for you.

I am proud to be a baby boomer; .While I don’t necessarily broadcast my age, I don’t hide it, either.The postwar babies born between 1946 and 1964 are a unique generation with a generous span of fascinating life experiences – .The question is whether we want to spend most of our time with “our own” as our main companions and primary influences.

My husband Tim and I talk regularly about whether we should consider a 55+ active community like Sun City; .(We have two of that brand and several others in the greater Sacramento region.) He has some physical limitations, and I have some conditions that nag and potentially could become more than annoyances; .If we moved to a mature adult community , it would make our neighbors all close to our own age or older.

Truth is, we relish our privacy and know only a few of our neighbors after living in our home eleven years.My communities stretch way beyond neighborhood geography considering cyber , work, and organizational connections.I can’t say we know any of our neighbors well, although we have a pleasant relationship with those we see regularly, especially our wonderful next-door neighbors; .Yet there are potential physical barriers to our current home we love.This knowledge keeps us on the brink of realism about how long we can stay here.

My uncle lived in the family homestead on Long Island past the deaths of his parents and his sisters , who lived with him most of the time. : he lingered there until shoveling snow and some of the other heavy work just became too much for him as he rounded 80.A few years ago, he moved to an active senior condo complex not far from his home of over 50 years – .It was the best thing he’s ever done! His only regret is that he didn’t do it sooner.

Uncle Mike and his condo-mates are family to one another—they eat, drink, and play together on a frequent basis; . : there’s always a card game, a birthday to celebrate, an invite for dinner, or some trip they’re planning.Since moving there, Mike has been on cruises to the Mediterranean, Canada and the Caribbean—air and bus trips Las Vegas and the Saratoga, NY races and other “gambler specials.” The way the community cares for each other and its camaraderie are touching.We loved spending Thanksgiving at the condo a few years ago and meeting many of these lively people, not to mention all the amenities of a pool and gym on site.

I am a mind and spirit kind of person; . : it’s more important to me to be with kindred spirits than to be with a kindred age group.Like mindedness and a broad view from the mountaintop about life is the neighborhood I need to live in. : oddly, that’s often easier to find on the Internet than anywhere because here we connect mind to mind and heart to heart and by like interests.If we’re lucky, we might meet face to face someday; .Still, I’m not naïve enough to think it’s good to be too homogenous when it comes to friends and family – .That can quickly go from kindred spirits to cliquish or clannish—just a step away from exclusionary. : i wonder for myself; where is the balance?

Other practical considerations: As we age, we lose friends and family at a faster pace. : tim’s sister and husband live in a 55+ active community where they are beginning to attend one funeral after another.Sometimes, their layers of grief on top of grief are hard to bear.Yet , they also feel solace knowing that whichever one of them goes first, the other will go on in a caring community of support. : if for no other reason than the terrible prospect of being the last one standing, I am grateful that several of my close friends are 10-15 years younger than I am, especially since I don’t have children or grandchildren. : theoretically, I won’t outlive all my friends.Still, if I think about it, even the youngest among my close friends is technically a boomer, thanks to the fact that our generation is defined by an 18-year age span.

When I made the decision early this year to revision my blog, there were many reasons that motivated me – .One I may not have emphasized; I was not comfortable with age segregation; . : it took a quote on Twitter from my cartoonist friends at Perrie Meno-Pudgethat finally helped me realize why:

The key to successful aging is to pay as little attention to it as possible.~Judith Regan

There’s nothing that makes me feel older than talking about aging too much, even in a positive way; .There’s nothing that makes me feel younger than diving into life and dealing with the petty annoyances of aging as comical asides and not the real drama.

Bottom line , I don’t want my age to define me.Of course there’s a place for boomer forums, how-to’s and humor, or I wouldn’t be writing this article – .Yet, if we truly become what we give energy to, I think I’ll stay away from senior segregation and an age-related focus for now and keep feeding my timeless spirit.

And if a time comes when I don’t have a realistic choice but to live exclusively among the saging set, I’ll make the best of it—and hang out with the most young- at-heart and upbeat boomers in the batch to keep me on my toes!

Joyce Mason is a writer and astrologer whose subjects are earth and sky, her main topic—symbols as guidance—and her genres, many.  Meet Joyce on her Writer-Astrologer Joyce Mason website and her three blogs: Hot Flashbacks, Cool Insights; The Radical Virgo; and her new poetry blog launching on the evening of this post, Stitched Verse; . : she welcomes your feedback: joyce@joycemason.com.

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Published in: Family, Life | on August 13th, 2010 | No Comments »

by Judith Drake

I just finished listening to the Tomatoes In The Trenches weekly blog radio show, and what a winner it was!  They interviewed Mark Miller, award-winning journalist and consultant who specializes in retirement and aging.  (Something I am beginning to need specialization in, I fear.)  He wrote the wonderful and helpful book “The Hard Times Guide to Retirement Security – Practical Strategies for Money, Work and Living”.  And couldn’t all of us use a few of those sort of strategies?!

The interview was quite enlightening, touching on topics such as considering your possible longevity (and women usually live a lot longer that men) when you decide at what age to take your Social Security, what age to retire, etc.

Mr – .Miller says in most cases we should not cash in early , and if you can afford to wait till you’re 70, you’ll gain 8%!  And remember that you should sign up for Medicare as soon as you hit 65, as those future medical bills won’t be fun.

He also urges us to pay off credit card bills and mortgages, unless we’re planning on staying in our current house forever, and says we should rethink the ‘retirement dream’…get more educated about money and planning.  One of things he says we should look into is purchasing annuities (not the variable kind), and take a look at Financial Advisors to lend a helping hand.  And many of us are taking up encore careers after retirement…using this time to make a contribution of some kind…teaching, working for charities, etc.

All in all it was a very informative interview, and you can listen to this interview on The Tomatoes In the Trenches Blog Talk Show at your leisure at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/tomatoesinthetrenches

You can also visit Mr.Miller’s blog and purchase this ‘everyone should read it’ book at http://www.hardtimesretirement.com

And you know what?  This is only the latest of the really great Tomatoes In The Trenches blog-talk radio show, where East Coast (The Three Tomatoes) meets West Coast (In The Trenches Productions).  It’s on every Wednesday at 1:00 PM EST/ 10:00 AM PST.  So do it.

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Judith Well-Over-60-&-Lovin’-It Drake has been in the ‘Show Biz’ for 45 years, crossing paths with the likes of Mary Martin, Betty Grable, Cher & Calista Flockhart along the way, been a wife to Mr – .Whipple and screamed for T-Mobile – .Her priority now is as a producer with In The Trenches Productions , the first entertainment network for women over 40 on the web.
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Published in: Family, Life | on August 12th, 2010 | No Comments »

by Pamela Archer

Early on I was taught to do everything to the best of my ability.My parents instilled a strong work ethic in us. : go the extra mile, give 150%, reach for the stars, all of these attributes were taught on a daily basis. : i am thankful for parents who taught me how to work, and who didn’t tolerate laziness.But , in their efforts to guide us in a positive way, they unknowingly failed to teach us moderation in all things.Moderation is what brings balance to our lives – . : i’ve learned this the hard way.

“Pam, are you sure you aren’t teaching too many classes?” “I’ve read that lifting heavy weights isn’t good for a woman’s body.” “You taught 18 classes this week, and you are still going to teach that instructor certification course this weekend?” These statements and questions from family and friends echoed in my mind as I was rolled away to surgery.Why hadn’t I listened to them? What made me think that I was invincible or immune to the consequences of over exercising?

The hysterectomy was completed in the first hour of surgery – .The remaining five and a half hours were spent reconstructing and repairing all of the damage I have done to my body over the past twenty-two years.Pelvic organ prolapse, that’s what they call it.Contributing factors to this condition are child-birth , weak muscle tissue, heavy lifting, thousands of crunches, and virtually pounding one’s body into oblivion, doing lots of high impact activity.

I wouldn’t wish what I have been through the past few weeks on my worst enemy! All of the core strength I have built now reduced to a mass of internal stitches.I’m never to lift anything heavy again.No more jumping, running, or hopping.No more crunches, squats or lunges with weights; .Ever! So, where did I go wrong? I’m the professional, I should have known better.I love to exercise! I felt accomplished when I could lift more weight for squats than most of the men in the room.It was exhilarating to know I could run circles around the high-school and college students I was training. : the problem was that I didn’t know the meaning of the word moderation.Plainly put, I acted stupidly! I have worked hard all of my life, so to give this fitness job anything less than every ounce of energy I had, seemed like goofing off, not putting forth my best effort.

As a certified personal trainer and resistance training specialist, I know that to gain strength, one should lift heavy weights, a FEW repetitions, 6-8 – .To build endurance, one should lift lighter weights many times.Many times could be three sets of 12-15 repetitions , or a few more.I taught a class for nine years that included doing 100-150 reps for each body part, with no break; .What was I thinking? Common sense should have told me that a woman has no business doing that many squats, particularly with weight on her back and shoulders – .Had I acted in my right mind, I would have put a stop to the insanity, as opposed to falling into the latest fitness craze or trend – .Of course, I paid no attention to compressing (as a trash compactor) all of my female organs with each crunch I did, and if I had counted, probably totaled millions, not thousands; .I could jump in place, and do repetitive jumping jacks in place with the best of them – .I loved every minute of it, too – . : this is the root of my issues.I loved it.

Not everyone who exercises regularly loves doing it , but for those of us who do, it can be a problem.I would never have recommended to any client the amount of exercise I did each week – .I knew it wasn’t good for them – . : after a few years, I knew I had done damage to my body.It was then that I started preaching a different sermon to new instructors, and to my class attendees – .The past several years, I have encouraged them to healthier exercise habits – .Some appreciated the advice, others didn’t.

Unless you are a very elite athlete, and I know you think you are, but you aren’t, women have absolutely no business doing plyometric types of exercise, or lifting heavy weights – . : it’s INSANITY! Oh, yes, there’s a workout for you, Insanity.You’re young , you’re strong, and you’re invincible. : no you aren’t! Study up ladies.Watch a few pelvic organ prolapse surgeries on You Tube – .Run a mile or two in my shoes, and you will come to your senses, and tone things down a bit.

Exercise is a great thing, but as with anything else in our lives, it can become as much of an addiction as drinking alcohol, smoking, drugs, food, or any other thing that consumes us – .Reap the benefits of healthy behaviors, and stay injury and surgery free; .Exercise moderation!

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Published in: Family, Fitness, Life, Women's Health | on August 10th, 2010 | No Comments »

by Cassie Rohn

Are you someone who has always known what you wanted to be or do when you grew up? Maybe you had no question of what most interested you or what you were talented at doing? Or are you one of the “unlucky ones” , like myself, who finds yourself later in life still with no clue, hoping that one day you will wake up and just know what it is you are meant to be doing?

Something occurred to me the other day; it hit me like a bolt of lightening actually. Maybe I have no specific purpose! Well, I don’t mean I have no reason for being here on planet Earth, but maybe I am not meant to do anything “big” or “life changing.” Maybe my whole reason for being here is something on a much smaller scale – . Perhaps I am meant to do little things that might help set bigger and better things in motion – . At first glance that really doesn’t sound all that exciting, but it has the potential to be; . I am finally realizing that I am a spark. I have the possibility to affect something or someone else for the greater good.

It’s the little things that we do in our lives that make the biggest difference. Remember the movie, “Pay It Forward?”: The premise being to do something nice for someone else, asking nothing in return except that they find a way to help someone else. Well, taking the idea and applying it to my own life I think of common and not-so-common courtesies (depending on what people are like in our “neck of the woods”) like smiling at strangers you pass, holding the door open who is walking in behind you, being nice and friendly to the not-so-friendly cashier because they may be having a bad day, or year or life and it’s a small effort you can make to help improve their life and possibly make them feel more like being a little nicer to the next guy, who then might feel like helping out someone else and so forth.

One can never know the difference that can be made in the lives of others and how far reaching it can be. I once heard a story of a young woman who taking a cross country trip and was in line to pay a toll only to find the person before her had already paid it; . She was so moved that she decided to do the same for the next person at every toll road she came to and begin to look for other opportunities to make a difference in the lives of people she would meet. : one small act of kindness can spark massive acts of kindness for others, making this world a better place, bit by bit.

It all starts with the small stuff. I recently returned a book to the library. I tucked a dollar bill inside with a sticky note that simply said , “Pay It Forward.” It was only a dollar and I will never know what will become of it, but I hope it will spark someone else to think of a way to help others and continue to generate good in life.

So, if you are like me and aren’t sure what you are really meant to be doing, than for now, just focus on the small things that create meaning for others and may help them to accomplish the big stuff. Without us doing the little things , the big things may never actually get done.

An In The Trenches Productions blast from the past, originally posted November 18, 2009

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Cassie Rohn, founder of Sexy Living Society, a community celebrating healthy, fit & sexy people in their 40′s, 50′s & 60′s living life to the fullest and those hoping to emulate them. “Living the Sexy Life….Are You Old Enough?” http://www.sexylivingsociety.com

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Published in: Family, Life, Opinion | on August 6th, 2010 | No Comments »

by Judith Drake

Well I don’t know about you, but occasionally (more often than I’d like to admit, frankly) I could use a little brain boosting!  So I was quite pleased to see the Healthwise article in my Bottom Line Personal issue a few months ago, “Chewing Gum Makes You Smarter – And Other Surprising Brain Boosters”, by David Grotto, RD, LDN, registered dietician and founder of Nutrition Housecall, LLC.

And what are some of these ‘surprising brain boosters’??  Well, have a look-see:

1 – .Researchers at Northwestern University found that people who CHEW GUM have increased blood flow to the brain and a corresponding increase in cognitive performance, AND they report a reduction of stress.  (Of course its best to pick sugarless.)

2 – .FROZEN BERRIES.  Researchers at the Jean Mayer USDA Human Nutrition Research Center on Aging at Tufts University found that animals given blueberries showed virtually no evidence in the brain of the cell-damaging effects of free radicals, and they did better on cognitive tests.  Frozen berries (pick your berry..raspberries, blueberries, strawberries) typically contain more antioxidants than fresh berries.  Why?  Because they’re picked and processed at the peak of ripeness.  Darker berries contain the most antioxidants..so you can say “Yes, Doctor, I am eating more antioxidants.”

3.TURMERIC.  One of the most potent anti-inflammatory spices.  A study of more than 1 ,000 participants with an average age of 68.9 found that those who often or occasionally ate turmeric performed better on mental-status evaluations than those who rarely or never ate it.Healthwise’s suggestion?  Add at least one-quarter teaspoon to recipes several times a week.  (And it makes stuff tastey, too.)

4 – .HAZELNUTS.  What do they have besides being delicious?  THE highest concentration of folate of all the tree nuts.  Low levels of folate have been associated with poor cognition and depression.  Other foods rich in folate include spinach , beans, oranges, avocados and wheat germ.  Yum!

5.CILANTRO.  This herb, also known as coriander, has long been used in Iranian folk medicine to relieve stress.  And we know what stress does…aside from making us miserable…it speeds up the aging process of the brain.  And my brain is old enough, thank you very much; .Modern research has also revealed the benefits of cilantro…an animal study verified that it eased stress.Recommended: one tablespoon of fresh cilantro (in salsa , guacamole, tacos, chili, stews, soups) several times a week.

And Healthwise didn’t stop there…the article also pointed out three “good” vices!

1.COFFEE.  Yeah!  A Finnish study showed that regular coffee drinkers were less likely to develop dementia than those who didn’t drink coffee.  Other studies showed that University students score higher on tests if they drink coffee before they pick up that pen.

2.RED WINE.  Double yeah!  It contains reveratrol, a polyphenol, that helps prevent inflammation and oxidation of brain tissue.  People who drink moderate amounts (2 glasses daily for men, 1 for women) have lower risks for stroke and dementia..

3. : chocolate.  And this chocoholic says “Yeah, Yeah and Yeah”!!!!!  Cocoa flavonols in chocolate inhibit free radicals and also relax the linings of blood vessels, which helps reduce high blood pressure, a leading cause of dementia.  However chocolates with a high percentage of cocoa don’t necessarily have a high concentration of flavonols, due to various processing techniques.  SO..look for products that advertise a high flavonol content on the label (60% to 85%).  One ounce is enough to get the benefits without unnecessary sugar and calories.  (Yeah, right…I’ll only eat one ounce…I promise.)

So there we have it!  With a final P.S.- Don’t Forget Fish!  A study of 3 ,660 adults 65 and older found that those who ate omega-3-rich fish three times a week or more were 25% less likely to have silent infarcts, blockages in blood vessels that can cause dementia.

Okay.  My menu for the rest of the year is now set.  Pardon me while I go pour myself a glass of wine.

Judith Chocolate-Rules Drake

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Published in: Family, Fitness, Life | on August 4th, 2010 | No Comments »

by Marjie Killeen 

Saturday night, seven of my girlfriends (who prefer to remain anonymous) and I headed to the S-Factor in Chicago to try a new type of workout, pole dancing; . : none of us had ever danced with a pole before (well, I once wound streamers around a May pole in 2nd grade, but that doesn’t count) and we were a bit nervous.

The common view of pole dancing is that it’s slutty and sleazy and only performed for the pleasure of lecherous, drooling, dollar bill wielding men.We were a group of middle-aged , married moms with jobs and responsibilities; not exactly the exotic dancer type.

But still, we were curious. : it sounded kind of naughty.And fun.

My 16 year-old son , Nick, learned about my plan and was appalled.He texted his buddy.

“Do you know our moms are going pole dancing?”

His friend texted back immediately.

“That makes me very uncomfortable.”

We moms were uncomfortable too , especially at the idea of trying to look sultry and sensual in front of one another.Our husbands , however, were surprisingly accommodating.They happily volunteered to run carpools, make dinner, take the cat to the vet.”I got it covered , hon, you go on and have fun at that dance class.”

I’m writing about the experience for Make it Better Magazine, so I’ll have to wait to give you the full scoop until after the article is published.But as a preview, here are three things I learned  from my first pole dancing class.

1.It’s not about how you look , it’s how you feel
The studio was dimly lit, and get this, had NO mirrors.Imagine our relief! Julie, our instructor, told us that we shouldn’t be concerned with how we looked or doing any movement “correctly.” We should consider the room a safe place to just let go and have fun and feel good about ourselves.

2 – . : curves are captivating
In other fitness classes I’ve taken, I felt that fleshiness was shameful – a problem that needed fixing.But at S-Factor, the goal is for women to appreciate and enjoy their bodies as they are, not change them – .Julie was gorgeous and sexy , but not skinny.She had boobs and a butt and man, could she flaunt ‘em.When demonstrating the “cat pounce” she  arched her back while pointing her tush at the ceiling; . : as I tried to follow along, for the first time in my life, I wished for a bigger ass.

3.Get in touch with yourself
Throughout the class Julie urged us to “put your hands on your curves.” Apparently, for a woman to be truly sexy she must know and own her body; to do that, she needs to be in contact with it. : touching ourselves – whether running a hand through our hair or massaging a knee – became part of the movements.

I felt awkward at first; it was certainly different than the pumping or punching arm moves that we’re asked to do in aerobic or weight lifting classes. : but as you can see from the pic above, I was feeling pretty comfortable in my own skin by the time class was over.

I’ll write more about this later this summer.But if you don’t feel like waiting, try a pole dancing class for yourself; .It’ll make you think about yourself in a whole new way.

And just for laughs, watch actress Sheila Kelley, the founder of the S-Factor, teach Conan O’Brien some seductive moves by clicking here.

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Marjie Killeen is a Chicago writer, wife and mother who has discovered that her forties are the coolest decade so far; .Since turning 40, Marjie earned her Masters degree, hosted her own TV show, sung in a classic rock band, and discovered her sporty side.All while keeping her lawn free of dog poop and her kids out of jail; . : she explores this fulfilling stage of life on her blog, www.fortyfabulous.blogspot.com

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